This month we are doing a series on goals and talking about how we can get out of our own way. This is part 2 in that series.
Hi! Last week I shared with you how I came to the conclusion that things two things were keeping my business stuck:
- I had no goal system in place. So no matter what I tried they were more like flailing attempts to find success rather than a systematic plan with steps, trackable actions, and end results.
- I was frustrated with my business (and parts of my life) and as a result I had some really negative ways I talked about my business (and parts of my life) but I didn’t really recognize it until I started to pay attention to it.
You can read that post here if you missed it.
So, before we can even get to setting goals in our business there is a major step we need to take first. That step is getting in the right mindset. Mindset plays such a huge place in business and many business owners skip over this step but wonder why they are stuck.
I have to completely agree with Mr. Jefferson on this point. If you don’t get the junk out of your head and get in the right mindset, you are doomed to fail and you have failed even before you begin.
Two of the things I needed to get past in order for me to succeed were:
- I didn’t really truly believe I deserved success.
- I didn’t really have much belief that I could make my business successful.
Now, the crazy part of this, for me, is that I didn’t really even know, at the surface, that I thought these two things about me. I am a fairly confident person and I do have faith somewhat in my abilities but over the years things happen, poor decisions are made, and we begin to doubt that we can do or deserve things. Or, at least, that is how it went for me.
I had to have a break through. I knew I had to come to terms with these two facts and that I wasn’t going to go any further in business, and in my life, than I had unless I got really clear with myself about the fact that I did deserve success and I could be the one to bring success to myself.
Those of you who know me, know I am a spiritual, God-lovin’ gal. And during my time of trying to convince myself that I did deserve success, I prayed a lot. I prayed for months on end to try to sort out some things that were messed up in my business, and even more so, in my life. I was frustrated and got to the point I was angry with God when I wasn’t getting the answers I was looking for. I am not the most patient person. Searching for answers and a place to unload my frustration, I started reading the book ‘Disappointment with God’ by Philip Yancey. (I highly recommend it. Check it out here if you are interested).
So, fast forward a bit, and I had my little break through that I needed. After a lot of work, prayer, and searching, I finally understood that I had a heck of a lot more power within myself than I had given myself credit. I wish I could offer a detailed plan and a step by step guide but it just hit me one day that I deserved way better than I let myself believe, and I could really turn my business into what I wanted it to be.
It basically came down to the thought that ‘things won’t get better until I start thinking better’. Simple but true. I begin to see myself as someone wildly capable. I started surrounding myself with people who lifted me up (and got rid of anyone who tore me down). And I knew that I could do whatever I set my mind to. God had planted this kind of power and potential within me when I was created, and now I just had to use it.
I stopped the negative thinking especially in the way I saw myself. I just believed that everything I said would come true. I had beat myself up for a lot of years and it came true in the way I didn’t think I could do much of anything. So, I was going to do what it took to reverse that. If I was having trouble paying the bills, I refused to let myself say I was poor. I found a way to turn it around and be thankful that I had my own home. I stopped complaining that the sales weren’t coming in, and started to be grateful I had a business at all and started to make sure I was aware of all the good that was happening in my business. It was a mindset thing. And switching up my thoughts were making each day SO much better. I actually started to enjoy my business again!
So, your challenge today is to start setting yourself up for success. Start seeing the good in EVERY situation, and do not say anything about yourself that you don’t want to come true. It’s a good place to start.
There is a LOT of power in getting yourself situated in the right mindset and then setting goals. Next week, in part 3, we will talk about more positive mindsets and things you can do to structure your business in a more productive way. We are laying the groundwork so you can be a goal-achieving ninja!
Until next time,