Here is the sucky thing about starting or running a business: it takes time. You probably know that is no secret. Sometimes it takes time to actually make money, to get all your systems in place and make sense of it all. And when you are investing this time into your business chances are there are people around you trying to bide for that time. Maybe that time that you are putting into your dream used to be time that went toward them. And they don’t get it. And you don’t know how to make more hours in a day. And it sometimes becomes a messy jumbled mess with feelings left hurt and you beating yourself up for not being super woman.

But here is what I can offer in this situation: Don’t give up. As cliche as that is there is so much truth in those 3 little words. Here is something else I want to give you because I have been in this very situation (and came through it with a better, shinier life with my family still in tact). Today I am giving you a permission slip. It has been signed. And now you can carry on with pursuing your dreams and making your business all that it can be.

The truth of the matter is that those around you may not understand what you are doing, what you are working for, and this is especially true if you are working on an online business. That “silly cyber fantasy” (I *might* have personal experience with this little phrase) probably doesn’t look like much to them because they don’t see the value in it. And that’s okay. But here’s the thing: You do your thing. Do your thing loud, happy, and unapologetically. Am I telling you to drop your family, get a divorce, cut all ties with any nay-sayers? No. Of course not. I am just saying that if you love your little dream, and you want to cultivate it into something bigger, by all means, do your thing.

I decided to start my business at the worst possible time as far as timing goes. I was raising three small kiddos, going back to school, going through a divorce, among other chaos, and I decided to launch PLC in the middle of the circus. I don’t think everyone around me thought it was a particularly smart move but I didn’t ask what they thought and, frankly, I didn’t care. Because I believed in myself, and I believed in what I was doing, even though I wasn’t sure exactly what that was yet. I am happy to say my silly cyber fantasy puts food on the table, a roof over our heads, and puts life into my soul. I truly feel alive when I am working on new projects, new ideas, and see my little business reach new heights.

So, please, if this is what you want (more days than not), and you are doing something that sets your soul afire, keep going. Don’t give up. They will understand in time. And if the whole thing blows up in your face, well, you will have learned a lot and you can start a new dream anytime. That’s okay, too. But the worst possible thing you can do for yourself is to stop because someone doesn’t understand, or quit because you don’t believe in yourself. Life is too short not to be doing something that you love. From one business owner to another, please take your permission slip and use it. Use it until the edges are tattered, there a rips in the creases and the words are faded beyond recognition.

Until next time,

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I learned the hard way. So let me save you some time. If you are new to running your business and are at the end of your rope, or have been hustling awhile and are two steps away from burning out, let me give you a virtual hug and tell you that I know how you feel. And I know I am also going to give you the two most freeing words that every business owner needs to hear…. SLOW DOWN. Before you leave the page thinking I am off my rocker a bit because to own a small business means to work incessantly let me back up those two words with some validation.

In the beginning of trying to make my business work, and trying to figure out what I was doing, I would hustle like crazy.  No surprise there as you do have to put in the hours, and get it done, and work like you have never worked before. I believe in working hard, and I believe in getting things done. But if you don’t do it the right way, you are heading to the B word. Burnout. You might be heading your way to being known as another ‘b’ word – and if that is the case I can help you as well with my little tale.

A few years into my business after working like Crazy with a capital c,  I found myself really ready to throw in the towel. Like for real. It was in the summer and I was on my porch one late afternoon with tears streaming down my face. I had had enough. And I didn’t want to be in that place because I loved my business but I needed to stop the insanity. I wasn’t making money, I wasn’t making my life work, and I certainly wasn’t in the dream job that I thought I would be in at this point. So, I decided to face the facts and end the charade. I tried, and gave it a good effort, but I needed to shut her down.

This broke my heart. Shutting down something I believed in, and loved, was absolutely heartbreaking. So I sat there for a long time and cried. The sun was starting to set, and in between my tears, I prayed and prayed that God would intervene in some way. I knew very well that God probably wasn’t going to drop $50,000 in my Paypal account at the moment but I needed something. I needed something to stop the hurt, to give me the courage to find a new direction, and to help me start over once again. After sitting there for awhile longer, I felt  something shift suddenly over me and the tears stopped. I sat up a bit, stared into the disappearing sun, and saw ‘Psalm 46:10’ in my mind.

Be still and know that I am God. -Psalm 46:10

Be still? Well, I was still physically because I had been in this chair for way too long. I was there long enough to wonder why my family hadn’t needed something from me, but grateful I had the time to myself. Be still? I was in no way still mentally… but maybe I needed to be. So, I don’t know what happened at that moment but I knew I couldn’t stop pursuing my dream business. But  I could stop being insane about it. If God wanted me here in this business, I needed to let Him do some hustling for me, and I needed to be still. I needed to give myself space each day, and stop forcing things in such a desperate manner. So, I let go. I started living each day as if I was making the money I needed, and I started being intentional about not forcing things but rather let them play out as they were meant to be.

So, years later, I am still in business and have reached a point where I am in love with my business. Is it always easy? Nope. Is it something I can’t wait to do each morning? It is. It really is. I no longer feel like I am about to burn out. I work less hours, I take care of myself more, I talk to God about my business, and I am still. I have stopped focusing on the money, and have focused on serving others. And that has made all the difference.

So, no matter where you are in your business, I hope you will slow down and know that it can work and work wonderfully. If you are doubting your place, I urge you to be still. We are so driven in todays society and stillness seems counterproductive. How can I find the answers if I am not actively doing anything? Sitting in silence, offering God what you have, and allowing Him to show you where you need to be can do amazing things for your business – and for you as a whole.

I hope you have a wonderful week and allow yourself some space to be still.

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